[双语] 绅士必读:敢于做自己

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男女交往“增值观”之二：敢于做自己！

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　　有没有哪个女士曾经这么不给你面子？我猜大多数男人都会回答“有”。你看，很多男人接近女人的时候都会问一些无聊无趣的问题——比如上面提到的那种。这些无聊的问题有什么不妥吗（除了那些明面上的毛病以外！）？

　　Questions like those don’t offer any VALUE to a woman’s night. Nor do they express attractive personality traits3. She’s heard those ‘lines’ a million times before and usually from guys who are inexperienced with women. The question is: Do you want to be placed in the same category as all the others who have bored her to tears? Again, we all know the answer.

　　这类问题不会让女士有任何收获，也没表现出男士迷人的个性特征。这种“套路”她早就听过千万遍了，而且通常出自那些与女人没有多少相处经验的男人之口。而这些男人把她烦得要命。问题是，你想与他们被归为一类吗？这个问题的回答我们也都知道。

　　As Ben once said: “...If you were an attractive woman, would you rather trade UP or trade DOWN?” So, the next time you find yourself in the vicinity of a woman you’d like to interact with, remember to be yourself.

　　就像本之前说的那样：“如果你是一位很迷人的女士，你想随高还是就低？”所以说，下一次如果你想与身边的某位女士搭讪，记得要“做自己”。

　　By ’being yourself’, I don’t mean your platonic, innocent, non-sexual self. I mean that you should express your REAL personality and steer away from standard polite and guarded conversations.

　　这里的“做自己”不是说柏拉图式的、天真无邪的、没有性意念的一面，而是说，你应该表现出你真正的个性，摒弃那些俗套的礼貌之举和谨慎的对话内容。

　　Enjoy the experience of meeting women and if you ever find yourself being ’too nice’ or platonic, remember this: Women are far more likely to be attracted to somebody who is lively and interesting because, like you, they too are looking to add value to their lives.

　　享受结识女士的经验吧，如果你发现自己有丝毫“太友好”或太柏拉图的表现，记住这一点：女人更容易被那些真实有趣的男人吸引，因为像你一样，她们也期望为自己的人生增值。

　　Stu

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